Wednesday, July 6, 2011

The First Week: Initiation

I didn't keep a detailed account of the last month, but I did keep track of the highlights that I want to remember.. Mom and Sam stayed for most of the week and left after Nathaniel did for work. Mom said it was so we would have time to bond but that didn't feel like the whole reason and she wouldn't tell me the rest. I dunno. I enjoyed them being here while they were though!! Hopefully they'll come back soon!!!!

June 13, 2011
Lilah had her first appointment with the pediatrician today. Dr. Naila Khateeb. First thing they did was to weigh her.. Nathaniel and I both looked at the scales when they weighed her and we both swore it said 5.91 pounds.. but evidently the nurses looked at it and read it wrong because the next thing I know, Khateeb is saying that she is severely underweight. "She has lost more than 10% of her body weight. The reason she is not waking up to eat is because she is getting very weak. You need to supplement your breastfeeding with bottles because she is not getting enough to eat," were the words she said to me. I was so crushed that I didn't even think to say anything about how she got 5 pounds 1 ounce from 5.91 pounds. I thought she was eating good and she was awake and alert several hours a day and everything. I thought I was doing a good job and then to have her tell me I was hurting my baby... I felt like the worst person in the world. I cut my hip a little when we got home. Mom and Nathaniel both wanted to know why I was crying and I didn't want to tell them it was because I was ashamed so I just went and laid in bed for a while. Nathaniel had to go do something so I got up and went and held Lilah after he left and apologized to her. I talked to Robin and she said the Dr was an idiot. I talked to Mom and she said that not being able to breastfeed wasn't my fault and that it was hereditary... Robin said that it's probably because my milk hasn't come in yet but that I should give it til Thursday because it takes longer to get milk after a c-section. So I felt a little better after I ranted to them for a while. Mom said that I needed to call the Dr on misreading the scales next time we went. We had to go back on Wednesday for another weight check anyway.
5 lb 14 oz  

 June 14, 2011
Hahaha Nathaniel was changing her diaper before bed while I ate some cereal. All of a sudden, he started hollering the the house and I couldn't understand what he was saying so I told him not to yell cause he'd scare her (she's never heard raised voices before, even in the womb, and she was asleep)... he came in the kitchen with the most disgusted look on his face and asked me to finish changing her. I asked him why and he said she wasn't done pooping... She pooped on him while he had her diaper off her. "It won't stop coming out!!" I thought mom and Sam were going to die laughing.. I was laughing so hard that I hurt my incision and couldn't breathe... but we got her changed and everything was okay again. Atleast he got some wipes under her butt before he ran out of the room XD

June 15, 2011
Hehheh yea.. my turn :/ I took a shower bright and early because we had another dr appointment that afternoon. After I took my shower, I had Lilah stripped down to get her ready for a bath. As I was walking with her from the living room to the kitchen, Mom started laughing about the time I felt something drip down my shirt... She peed on me lol Mom thought it was hilarious. After her bath, I handed her to Mom to hold while I went and got an outfit for her to wear. Mom was holding her on the table to air dry without a diaper for a little bit (like she did with all of her kids) and Lilah peed on the table lmao and Mom's arm... Ahhh the simple joys of life. I'm loving it.
So her dr appointment went a little better this time. Her weight was  6.23 lbs (which is 6 lb 3 oz). It was the same nurse that was doing her weight and I told her that she wrote her weight down wrong last time. That there was no way Lilah was barely over 5 pounds and now she was over 6 in not even 2 days. She looked at the records and agreed with me. "Yea, there's no way she's gained that much in such a short amount of time," she said. She apologized and said that it was her fault, that she should have double checked the aide in training that read off the weight. She tried to make me feel bad by saying she would let the dr know about the mix up but that she was probably going to get in trouble.
When we finally got to see the Dr (who STILL mispronounced her name no matter how many times I corrected her), she said that the nurse had informed her about the mix up and that she was still a little concerned about her weight and that I should keep supplementing until my milk comes in really well. I gotta say, I was pretty pissed about the offhanded way she apologized, like it was nothing to have told a NEW MOTHER that she was STARVING her child to death. I found it very rude and unprofessional. Looking back on it, I'm irritated that she didn't double check the weight on Monday when they said her weight was so low. You'd think they would make sure on things like that before they make such callous remarks. Her next appointment was scheduled for a week later. I told Robin and Mom what happened. Robin told me to find another pediatrician. I told her that I wanted to wait to see if maybe it was just because I was so new that she was being like that.
Oiy I haz a headache...

June 16, 2011
Nathaniel left for work this morning.. I'm sad because it feels like I didn't get to spend any time with him at all this week... Its been a regular circus. We were in the hospital his first 2 days home.. then he had to work friday. We had Saturday together (which was really nice) and then Mom and Sam got here on Sunday and were here until this afternoon. I wouldn't have traded seeing them for the world but I feel like we didn't get any real family time... next week its just gonna be us. Were gonna rent some movies, lock the doors and take a home vacation. Just me, him and Lilah May :) The house feels so quiet without anyone here.. It's amazing how little time it takes to get used to something. And it makes me even more anxious to go back to Missouri so everyone can meet our little angel.
I asked her if she loved Daddy and she smiled :)

June 17, 2011
Short and sweet.. nothing much happened today. However, she did get me pretty good. Yep. Wasn't finished when I went to change her diaper... Got me with both of them, poop and pee... I texted Nathaniel and told him and he just laughed at me :/
Uh huh. Don't let the innocent look fool you lol

June 18, 2011
So I called the hospital about my incision site this morning because there's a lump in the right side that goes almost an inch above the incision.. They told me if its not puffy, red or leaking to just watch it buit if it gets bigger, to come in. I'm moving around a lot better now. I'm down to one motrin and one pain pill before bed. I only take them then because I get stiff with sleeping and it hurts more when I have to get up to pee and everything. Lilah is still sleeping in the bed with me, so I don't have to worry about bending over and picking her up out of the bassinet.
I looked up the swelling online and it looks like its pretty common. Something to do with a build up of fatty/scar tissue and that there's not a lot I can do about it.  Once its completely healed, you can do a type of percussion massage that will help break down the tissue. But atleast at 10 days post pardum, I'm back to 160... hopefully it'll keep dropping :D

June 19, 2011
Father's Day! I wish Nathaniel was home for his first father's day.. But he's at work. He did have a gaurdian angel watching over him at work. He was headed to his new rig location, going about 60 mph and his back rim blew out on him. The RIM, not the TIRE. I asked him how bad it could have or should have been, and he said it should have put him in the trees. It split in a spiral from the very inside of the rim. It it had been a front tire, we'd probably have been headed to the hospital. Thank you Derek and Grandma, for watching over my baby. And especially on Father's Day. You have no idea how grateful I am and how grateful Lilah is. You saved the most important man in her life :)

So we survived our first week as a family. Mentally, physically and emotionally, we have begun a new chapter in our lives that is sure to be the best adventure yet. And it has only just begun :)

Live, Laugh, Love and Dream

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